Living in Fear?!?…

Posted: October 26, 2021 in Uncategorized

Let’s give some back story for just a moment to paint a picture of my particular circumstance….
My Corey…my sweet little 6 year old boy who by the way has only been sick twice prior to COVID… We have been so blessed with a little boy who has an immune system like no other… He is just so strong. Colton, his brother has been sick a few times, not many but a few….He is pretty string as well, but Corey in 6 years has been sick twice. Then COVID spreads across the globe and we have done everything in our power to protect ourselves and keep ourselves safe due to our little boys and Kimberly’s job as a nurse with patients who have compromised immune systems. We just want to be sure that we are being wise and cautious.

Even having done all these things to be cautious, we still get COVID….all of us…all four of us get it. I got it pretty bad…lasted 8 and a half weeks, developed COVID-induced viral pneumonia and swelled up as if I was 9 months pregnant. It was not pretty. I went to the ER twice and then had an emergency appointment with a doctor after I had swelled up…I still have some symptoms a year later. Anyways, back to Corey…

I sat with my boy while I was sick and miserable for 3 days. He couldn’t sleep, he was shaking uncontrollably, anytime he would dose off, he would wake up pacing in circles and not know where he was or where he was going. I have never seen my little guy like this and never want to experience it again. It was horrible. He bounced back pretty quick…but those 3 days were terrible.

I have friends and even family members who can’t seem to understand what I experienced with my family during this time. They continue telling me that because I am still being cautious that I am choosing to live in fear and no trusting God. Those who truly know me and some of you may be my readers and I love that some of you know me so well already… It’s awesome to know you pay attention. Those who know me know better than all of that. I haven’t lost my faith in God. Scripture tells us to be wise and not tempt God.

I am being cautious because of what I experienced. What I went through with my little boy. I don’t want to experience that again. I don’t judge others for their stances; I merely have a problem with others judging me based on mine. I am a sheep and gullible and obviously scared and an idiot because I want to be cautious with my little boys whom I had an extremely traumatic experience with.

Now, get this, these same people who are condemning me for being cautious for having my boys mask up and limiting their exposure to unvaccinated, unmasked people until I feel that the virus in under control in our community and society, those same people are telling me that I am clueless and unaware of what is happening in our nation. They claim I need to be stocking up on guns and food because our nation is in a war right now. At some point our government may come in an seize our home and if we don’t have food rations to go off the grid and we don’t have ample guns to protect ourselves we are doomed. Oh my gosh, I literally just laughed out loud while I was typing that sentence.

Please do not get me wrong, I am not against food conservation or guns. To stock-pile non-perishable food is fine and maybe even wise. Doesn’t sound like their could be a down side to that at all. Regarding guns, I am not at all anti-gun; I am however anti-crazy-person-with-a-gun… Anyone who can not wait to get their hands on one, is the last person I want to have one…just sayin’ but that’s a topic for another day. Guns are great! I am not anti-gun at all.

The point here is that the people that are close to me that should know who I am, have really no clue at all because they are too consumed with themselves. But these people claim that I am living in fear because I have actually experienced something traumatic and am taking action to prevent the same thing from happening again. But they are working so hard to prevent something they have never experienced and have little evidence of it’s possibility. That does not mean that their fears are not valid. Who can say what fear is valid and what isn’t. If people have fears, they should be able to handle them. It is when they impede upon their lives or other’s lives, that maybe they need to address them and seek potential counseling.
The idea of their fears about our government taking over is silly to me but I would never stifle their choices to protect themselves and their family as they see fit. But my concerns about facing something that I have already faced and wish not to face again, they see as dumb, misguided, and lacking in merit. Therefor I should get over myself and stop living in fear…

I need to stop living in fear while they handle their snakes to show their faith in the Lord and build bunkers filled with guns and food to prevent the next war that they claim will break out in within the next 3 years…. Let’s readdress this conversation in 3 years when it never happens. Talk to you then…

Clearing my head…

Posted: October 25, 2021 in Uncategorized

It’s your boy here… The reality is that I had a draft that I was supposed to post a few weeks ago and still have yet to post it… It’s challenging at times because so many things get into my head. I’ve always got so much going on and trying to get it all out…much easier said than done, but I think that is what I’m going to start doing is just getting more out. I’ve got to stop overthinking it and just get the content out there and let fall where it may…

Right now, I have these things that have been burdening my mind because I feel we are losing focus as a people….as a nation…as a community… I am not a Bible thumping person because I feel it does no good…. I am a strong Christian and anyone who has known me for a good amount of time knows this to be true. I may be flawed and broken but I never claim to be perfect… I am not here to preach but to shine some light…

We need to be living with a Kingdom Mindset and few truly are… an maybe the word few is too harsh or slightly exaggerated but I feel the point is made and merits an observation.

In the grand scope of how many of us are walking the Earth, there are far too many who do not even know Jesus, of those who do know Jesus, many choose to deny Him, of those who choose to accept Him, there are so many who many know of Him but not of the Word of God… They are lost without His teachings… Of the ones who know, far too few actually practice, and of the ones whom believe they practice, many are too caught up in checking the boxes of things they did to serve God that they have forgotten about true relationship and about the basic principle of having love and compassion for their fellow man.

I have had just about enough over the last few years… I have friends, family, people whom I’ve known for so long and felt as though I knew so well, that will claim to be loud and proud Christians because that is what they were brought up to do.
They will stand so high and mighty upon their principles because they know the “right” thing to do and what is “fundamentally correct and right and good.” When you have lost the way of the Lord, these words are in quotes because they are just words at that point… that have lost meaning and merit. They no longer carry the weight they were intended to carry.

When you pass judgement upon so many others around you for their sins…. oh how you have forgotten when Jesus spoke, “ye without sin, cast the first stone,” and they dropped their stones and walked away from the sinner they were ready to stone for her actions. Because Jesus is not physically present right in front of you for you to see him, you forget the words he spoke and chose to cast stones regularly…in these modern times of social media, stones are virtually thrown by the millisecond. It’s absurd and an abomination.

Let me ask the question that sadly no one who doesn’t already agree with me will have an answer for…What does this behavior do for the Kingdom??

When you see people sinning and doing wrong, passing judgement only pushes them further from the Lord… but let’s not talk about that. I have literally had people tell me, “Corey, you are too soft and too passive when it comes to things that are wrong.”

I did a Freedom Bible Study last summer and had an excellent discussion about how I held Christians to a higher standard for their mistakes… I feel that at the end of the day, we are all people and we are al going to make mistakes but when I non-believer makes a mistake, they may not even realize it’s a mistake or may not understand it’s importance…still valid, still a sin, and still needs correcting ….but when a Christian passes judgement and makes the mistakes that we all tend to make, the non-believer who was sitting on the fence just jumped back to the other side because they have taken that to be identifying characteristics of what and who Christians are…. fair…nope…not really, but life isn’t fair… Let’s grow up already and accept the responsibility we have as Christians and start leading by example by living with a Kingdom Mindset…

Ya feel me?

Let’s do this… we’re not in this alone…God put us here together to walk together. Let’s help each other out. Let’s take a chance to remind our fellow Christians who are falling short to get back on track opposed to constantly condemning those who don’t know…if we can help get each other on track, we can begin to help more people around us know Jesus and develop relationships with Him. Let’s work together!!

God is GOOD…. All the Time (You know what you supposed to say… )

Think Different….

Posted: August 8, 2021 in Uncategorized

It is time to start thinking differently…

You have already heard it before…probably many times… Defined insanity is continuing to do the same thing and expecting a different result… Oddly enough, this is similar to experimental design but that is a discussion for another day…

No matter what it is you are trying to do in your life, you’ve got to start thinking different. Do not change who you are, change how you think about the process.

Sometimes it helps to get a new environment, atmosphere, just an overall vibe to how you are letting your mind wander… Then begin to think differently and marinate on what is next. Really allow your thoughts to permeate in your mind and be sure you know what it is you are reaching for and what is driving you in this direction. Know your purpose.

Let me ask a simple question that sadly too few of you will have an answer to… “What is it you want?”

Now take this for what it is… Your boy over here is a business coach/consultant and a life coach… What is it you are lacking right now?

No matter how good things are, there is more for you.. Let’s get it poppin’

Marinate tonight and truly give the necessary amount of time to truly think about what it is you want and I’ll hit you back in the am… and we’ll go to work… Let’s get it done.

I hope you’re ready for some tough love…

“When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.” 1 Corinthians 13

Take a moment to marinate on what you see on social media amongst your nieces, nephews, your own children, …ultimately, the younger generation. There is a solid reason why may of you choose to not follow them or they choose not follow you. It is not a lack of love and desire to be distant. It is about a gap in age groups which also should offer a gap in maturity, It is true, it happens. You don’t want to be on there with the younger teenagers venting and complaining about how hard life is when they have truly not even yet experienced life…am I right?…You know I am.

Now, take a moment to marinate on what your peers are posting, your brothers, sisters, friends, coworkers, and even yourself…

At this point, is it really much different than the younger generation? Sad to say, it rarely is. Social media has become flooded with nonsense and complaining about life and problems. Yes, life has problems…that will never change. If you got it in your head that life would be easy, so sad how misguided you have been. And for all my fellow Christians out there with this idea that the Christians are being attacked and persecuted…This has truly gotten out of hand…not only are they not nearly as persecuted as they once were, but if you are well read in the Bible, you should be aware that being a Christian was never said to be easy… Just ask Peter. But taking things to the level that we sit and complain and bicker and attack one another on social media when we are so bold and brave behind a keyboard is not hwta God intended for us. That is not serving Him.

“Give your burdens to the Lord, and he will take care of you. He will not permit the godly to slip and fall.” Psalm 55:22

“Don’t be afraid, for I am with you. Don’t be discouraged, for I am your God.” Isaiah 41:10

Getting on social media whether you are a Christian or not and venting all of your problems is not the way… unless you are 15…. That is what you do when you are a child. It is time to grow up and get past all of this. Sadly, I look at some of my family members who happen to be in the younger generation and they are not posting all the whining… It is coming more from the older crowd than the younger which is just so sad.

Let’s take an opportunity to allow ourselves to marinate with our thoughts and then try counting our blessings before we begin to get online and vent and point fingers. It just doesn’t do any good doing things that way.

“Your friends will stretch your vision or choke your dream.” -Colin Powell

That’s real talk right there… I meant to get this posted the other day but it just didn’t happen… My apologies to those who were anticipating it and thanks to all who have stayed tuned in…

Let’s get down to it…

Who is you surround yourself with is so much more important than people tend to understand. I have literally posted things before about people minding their circle, and these were not always received well. People made comments about me being superficial or only carrying about money or not having my priorities right… This is all laughable to me.
The kicker was those who were so quick to defend their station in life stating things like “material possessions aren’t important to me” or “I’m happy with my friends and don’t need more out of life as I have all I want”

Those are cute “Hallmark” answers but they’re all meaningless. If they were true, they wouldn’t need to be said. There are many things in life that must be explained but lots of things shouldn’t have to be and when they are, they tend be explained just as a sense of overcompensation for a need of validity. Or just because the particular individual needs to reassure (or lie to) themselves. It is sad to see such a lack of self awareness but it is a common situation.

It is human nature to to correct the cognitive dissonance one has in their own mind by continuing to try to convince themselves that what they have is what they want….obviously.

So, we’ll move on from that for now… I can divulge more on that in a later blog.

Tonight, I want to give some tips on your circle. Of course there are people in our lives that have just happened to be there out of convenience…. a college friend, an old co-worker, a random acquaintance… People that otherwise you may have little even in common with, but they tend to stay there just because they have been there for so long. This is not a bad thing… It is a part of life. The problem is when this becomes the norm. When all of your primary circle are merely people who have positioned themselves there only by accident and with no intention of growth.

This is where things may begin to touch a nerve with some of you…if it does, GOOD. You are obviously the one I am speaking to.

Your circle should begin to become smaller as you grow older and wiser…but not just smaller, but should begin to be a circle with intent. You should be positioning yourself in a spot with those around you who want to lift you up and propel you forward, not those who wish to stifle you because you are different. Those in my main circle may not all think like me or have similar goals in their lives but what they do have is an unending level of support for me and where I am going. Some of them are going to give all they can to help me get where I’m going. Some are going to join me on my journey. The others may not be on a similar path as me, but they have my back, one hundred, and will always support me. That is the way it should be, and you could ask any one of them, they all know with out question, that I will ride with them to the end and beyond.

I bring something to the table with them and they all know that we in it together. I am a firm believer that God did not out us here to walk this world alone… He had intention and that intention involved community. But who is in that community is where I get a little more particular about the situation. You have to be mindful about who you surround yourself with.

So to end back at the quote from the beginning, those who are intended for your circle are those who will help push you towards more than you ever thought you would be going after while others… will smother and crush your spirit and motivation towards all the greatness that you are heading towards. Some will do it because they can’t understand what you are going after and others are bitter about their own situation…

No matter the reason or even if it is subconscious, they aren’t the problem because they aren’t in control. You are, and you choose to allow them to push you forward or break you down.

I find myself in this late hour trying to contemplate what has brought me here and what ever shall I speak on as I feel I have this inner desire to write, but am unsure of where it is going at this point… Stay with and pay close attention as it may get a little convoluted.

As Colton, my youngest has spent the last 3 day running fever and coughing uncontrollably, I have attempted in all my efforts to be a good daddy and be at his side. He is only six and such a warrior that he takes very little if any medicine. He is like his grandma, my Mom who was a soldier the likes of which this world had never seen. So fierce and strong for which pain did not hurt…not because pain wasn’t real, but rather she had mind-control over her pain like a green-beret or the fiercest of marines. I look at Colton and know she would be so proud. He is soldier and a warrior just like her. Just like her, he is an inspiration to me all the time… but I digress…. just bragging about my amazing boy.

So, I have found myself trying to be here for him and also keeping a close eye on him while he sleeps as he has struggled with coughing fits… and made time to play and hang out with Corey II who is 7. Just my luck that Kimberly has been stacked up with work…they are short nurses and she has been working an insane amount of hours… the last two days she has pulled between 12-13 hours and then today, she worked over 15…

It has been quite the week to say the least. I find myself running on the littlest of fumes have slept less than 6 hours in the last 95 hours… and now after having a drank a couple of Nos throughout the day and then sitting down to fill a few orders while I watch my little boys doze off in the living room where I can work yet keep a close eye while they sleep, I sat and had a nice long discussion my brotha from anotha motha…

Amidst trading, filling orders, watching my boys, we dove into where we really were with some things…. I also just finished finished a bottle of wine while on mere moments of sleep… I know that I was truly insightful. This is something I recommend to you all on a more regular basis and by “you all”, I also refer to myself as making time for you and your Fam to truly reflect on things and discuss, you give such opportunity for room to grow and learn from each other as well as build one another up. God did not put us here to walk alone. We are here together… You’ve got to find your die or die homies that will take it to the mat for you every day. Once you have found them, which I promise will be few… you’ve got to always be 100 with them… nothing but honest all the time and allow them the same freedom with you. We need that freedom and need to hear what they have to lay down also. We have to keep each other in check.

We all have flaws and are broken at times… Be open to your own brokenness and not just allow but encourage them to help decipher your shortcomings. They also need to be there to elevate you and propel you forward as you must also do for them.

People have always told me that I am such a positive person but the things is that I am aware of many of my faults and don’t allow them to break me.. I just work on them. I am also very well aware of all the blessings in my life so dwelling on how life has fallen short or hasn’t turned out this way or that just seems silly to me. It isn’t positive, it is realistic. I am blessed, and I know it!

Count your blessings and share them with those around you.

It is an ideology that is so frequently never even contemplated… People continue to reach for something, maybe something not too big… Maybe something that may even seem big, but something that at the core appears to be something of such simplicity, that why can it not be attained…

Well, there in lies the challenge. The acceptance that it can not be attained. First, we must stop accepting that things can not be attained and then we must propel ourselves forward towards greatness…

And that is the second key, …Greatness. Stop attempting to settle for such a simplistic idea when you can reach out and grab onto so much more. Take a moment to really think about that one. If you can think bigger, you can have bigger, and that bigger can likely encompass what you used to feel was so simple and yet you were being denied…It can all be yours.

Stop holding yourself back. It is all there for you. You must be willing to reach out and grab it! Think bigger.

Get Cocky

Sometimes, we just need to talk to someone new…someone we may have not spoken to in a while… just to get fresh insight, to get things poppin’.
See, your boy like to keep things fresh, but I also love to keep things movin’.
I always say if you’re sitting still, then you’re doing it wrong. Are you with me? Are you ready? Are you motivated?…
If you aren’t, maybe the problem lies within you… and you only need a new perspective to help get it out.
You just need that fresh vibe… I encourage you to reach out to an old friend, a cousin, one of you homies from back in the day or maybe engage someone new, someone who may be a colleague or someone you encounter on the regular but never realized that they may be the missing puzzle piece to unlock what you’ve been trying to get out.

I feel as though I have been revitalized and motivated in a new direction as of late… I hope you still ridin’ with your boy

Things are about to blow up… Let’s get there

Down but not out…

Posted: January 27, 2021 in Corey B.
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It has been more than a minute since my last post… I got nothing but love and respect for all of my loyal followers out there and appreciate your support through everything we have been going through.

Your boy contracted COVIC back in July… it hit your boy hard and knocked me out of commission for about 8 1/2 weeks which those who know me, know that ain’t like me at all. I had a wide spectrum of symptoms unlike anything I have ever felt before. It had high blood pressure, running fever for days, no appetite, vomiting, coughing fits, pouring sweat, my stomach swelled up like I was 9 months pregnant for several days…which if you don’t know me, I weigh about 160 lbs… I am not a big guy… the list truly goes on and on. It was unpleasant. After everything that I felt and having Kimberly and our boys contract the virus as well, still more than 6 moths later, I am still not one hundred… I haven’t been right since then. I still have fatigue, coughing fits when I eat, shortness of breathe, and even hair loss which I am told is an after effect due mostly to the stress of the virus. I almost thought that was weird until I noticed that as my hair was falling out in clumps, new hair was actually growing in it’s place… This has been one of the weirdest experiences of my life and I am still dealing with it today.

I only say these things to give perspective, I have had to try to get back to work to earn for my family as well as try to re-engage my business that was thriving amidst this pandemic but that I had left stagnant from over 2 months while I tried to recover. I have also tried to get back to re-engaging with my church and assisting in hosting services live online in addition to getting back to things with my boys getting back to school, posting more content on my Instagram account as well as my Youtube channel… which all of these things has left my blog lacking… So, with all of that being said, I just want you all to know, that I am still not myself but have a serious drive and passion for what I do and love all of you who have been here with me. Know that I am not done and I’ve got so much more coming. Life has tried to get the best of your boy but I won’t be broken. I will rise up and conquer all that stands in my way… Thank you all again for your loyalty. I’ve got so much more coming. Stay tuned for what’s next.

So… This is actually not new… I wrote and published this in a different blog about 6 years ago… only 5 and a half short months after our oldest son was born… I find it just as relevant today as it was then…maybe even more so. Enjoy…

So last night I was reading this article which really got to me just a bit especially having similar topic content to my most recent blog “Smell the Roses.”

So…up in NYC, there is this restaurant that was quite popular and has been there for years but as of recently they began to receive bad reviews. They felt as though business had been steady over the last 10 years and not much has changed. Why are they just now receiving bad reviews after a decade of good reviews. They couldn’t figure it. They even hired new staff to try to compensate for the reviews claiming they were too slow. They eventually hired an investigator to help them get to the bottom of the problem. Get this…10 years ago they had these old Sony systems that recorded their surveillance on tapes. They are now upgraded to digital. By sheer luck, they had the old systems in storage and each of the 4 systems had the last tape still in them. The investigator reviewed the tapes from July 1, 2004, taking notes and comparing the details to the digital recordings from July 3, 2014 which was almost the exact same volume. As he calculated everything, he noticed that it took on average 1:05 from time of arrival to time of departure in 2004 and 1:55 in 2014. When he looked at all the little details, it took on average the same amount of time for them to be greeted at the door, the same amount of time for them to be brought appetizers, same for their meal, their check, and so on….so what was accounting for the difference in time…The people in 2014 all had smart phones. Many of the customers wanted to take photos with their food or have the server take a group photo which they had to review and then take again to get it right. Several wanted to show the  server something on their phone. And several of them either did bump into or nearly bumped into someone as they walked out because they were busy staring at their phone.

In the end, the restaurant is giving the same quality of service as it always has but the customers are now so distracted that they do not even notice and then are displeased when they see the clock after having left. This is outrageous.

What has our society come to? I have been there on a special occasion and taken a photo before at a restaurant so I am not pointing the finger without pointing four back at myself but I can say in my defense that my lovely wife has helped me change so much for the better. Let me clarify that she has not intentionally changed me….I had to say that before I received angry comments. lol
My lovely wife having entered into my life has shown me there is so much more precious things in life and time should not be wasted having been attached to one’s phone. Those beautiful precious moments are lost never to be seen again. Take a tip from me and put that phone in the glove box the next time you go into a restaurant and embrace those moments. I promise you that you will not miss your phone. It will be waiting for you and nothing is going to be so pressing that it cannot wait until you are finished with your meal. Having left your phone aside you will have no distractions to take your eyes off of your beautiful wife’s eyes except for the moment when your little one pours his beverage in his lap…and each of those moments should not be missed. You will treasure them forever.