beingcoreybayless

Ladies and gentlemen, it is truly tired…
I’ve had enough already!

Everyone is just so entitled as of lately and I’ve just had enough. They constantly cry over “free speech” yet don’t even give it a thought to what the statement means nor do they concern themselves with other’s freedoms and liberties… They are only concerned for what they feel they are owed…

“Owed”??!!??

Yeah, That’s right, they feel they are owed certain things in life and I’ve kind of just had enough of listening to it.
Free Speech – Is an idea that is spoke on in the First Amendment of the Constitution

“Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the Government for a redress of grievances.”

And there you have it…. Free speech only means that the government will not get in the way of your right to speak freely… Hmmm…. pretty simple.

Facebook has no obligation to allow you to post the things they don’t want on their website. Twitter has no obligation to allow you to post things on their website that they do not want on their site. Hmmm…

Dorsey and Zuckerberg are not the government and owe you absolutely nothing. They are building their businesses and have their rights, liberties, and freedom to run their respective businesses in the manner in which they choose.

We have all these entitled Americans all over the country whining and crying over their lack of freedom to do as they wish in other people’s house…LOL
Now, I use the word house referring to their place of business because as a business owner myself, my business is my house… The same rules apply to my house as do to my office. It is MINE! I built it! I own it! And NO ONE will take what is mine or try to enforce their ideals in my house! That plain and simple. Ya heard!

I’m not on Dorsey or Zuckerberg’s level, yet one day, I very well may be… wither way…regardless of how big or small my business is, I will always maintain control over it.

No one will ever tell me they have any right to do as they wish in my house

You want to speak “FREELY”, do it in your house!!

Look, the reality is that the Game has some serious points in his response and I respect it when he speaks on the continued issues with what many think to be fair within the Grammy’s. For Ye to be banned based on his online behavior… Come on, seriously, he has always had erratic online behavior and in light of everything going on in his life right now with his ex-wife and kids can absolutely take a toll on a man. Don’t get me wrong, I am not one to lay all the fault on one side. Kim & Ye both had faults which contributed to where things are. This is a man who has been 100% open about his mental issues and struggles and he’s put it all out there again and again to try use it as a strength and not allow it to be his weakness. I can respect him for his efforts. It does get the best of him at times, but he is handling it the way he knows how.

For the Grammy’s to ban him based on this is absurd. Rappers and artists have beef with people all the time. My man 50 straight up stirs up beef with someone if it’s been a minute since he had one. He enjoys it. It’s part of how things go…

The Game even compares what the Grammy’s is doing to gaslighting and I don’t think he’s reaching. I will however say that comparing him to Kaepernick really takes away from his argument. Ye & Kaep are not the same. Ye fought and fought and has built something from nothing. Kaep is ultimately a big baby.

I know those words are gonna hit a little harshly… Let me elaborate… It was one thing when he took a knee. It was another when he continued to change his story of why he took a knee… (Kinda discredits your movement when you can’t keep your story 100) It was a completely different situation when he claimed to have been training for months and the hosted his NFL tryout for coaches and scouts to come and watch his drills and see if they would sign him…Now those who haven’t truly been following the story, let me enlighten you… He claimed all over social media to be training so hard for these drills that the NFL scouts were coming to watch him to see he was still valuable and could be signed by someone even though his stats grew weaker and weaker every season after his rookie season… It actually made the news… There were so many that were covering the story that Kaep was gonna get signed and there were several teams that had representatives eager to check out his drills only for him to decide to cancel at the last minute and reschedule. When he rescheduled at the last minute, the teams lost interest… The fault lays solely on him at this point. He had teams ready to sign him. There are only so many teams out there and so many positions available. Everyone wants to make him out to be this victim. There are much more talented players sitting at home watching the games or have started their own businesses and such because there wasn’t an NFL team available to sign them for the money they wanted or need or whatever.
Kaep doesn’t work like Ye and has given many of his own opportunities. Ye has created opportunities when others said there was nothing there. When he was told his first single couldn’t be done, he said it’s the way I’ll go… When he was in debt and struggling to get Yeezy off the ground, he fought for every inch. When people have questioned him, called him crazy, mocked, ridiculed, and otherwise berated him on his every turn, he has continued to fight.

For me, the Grammy’s don’t have grounds for their ban on him. But, I’ll also say that The Game, I got mad respect for you, dawg… But bringing Kaep into a conversation about Ye only loses the momentum and discredits the stance that Ye is being done wrong.

No shade thrown over here… Just your boy’s insight. Till next time, keep getting it done.

Yeah, take that title in and marinate on it for a minute…

I know this is going to rub a lot of the entitled, privileged Americans the wrong way but this needas to be said…

I had a friend who drove for Pizza Hut for years and couldn’t make himself quit because he said the money was just way to good and too easy to let go of… Hmmm…. Interesting…
I, myself, was a head cook for a restaurant for a few years and even took a shot at waiting tables on my day off until the management said they needed me in the kitchen instead of the floor… Well, while on the floor, I realized that I made more in four hours on the floor than I did in 10 in the kitchen even being the head cook… With all that being said, there are things that people whom have never worked in the food industry know about. For instance, it is true that wait staff only get paid $2.13 an hour plus tips, which many know and this is why many feel obligated to tip regardless of service or experience. The truth is that it is against federal law for people to be paid less than minimum wage therefor when a server doesn’t make enough tips to hit minimum wage, it is required for the restaurant to pay them minimum wage instead of the $2.13 an hour…. Most do not realize this. Now, in all the years I worked in the food industry and all the different people I worked with, there was only one girl that I have ever known to not hit the mark. She was terrible and she knew she was… She completely did not care. She worked graveyard and avoided all the customers if she could and they replaced her as soon as they could but it did take a few months to get someone to fill this shift out in Oak Hill…

I was even working at a restaurant when it was audited because all the wait staff was lying about how little their tips were and they fell under the mark that drew a red flag to the IRS. It was crazy, they came in a watched the servers count their tips at any given moment for a few weeks…. IT was nuts.

One of the waitresses drove a new mustang and the another a corvette… All of them were far better off than the management. None of this is a problem… Don’t get me wrong. They worked hard deserved it.

The problem is that we are getting to the point that tips are expected not earned… So sad.

In the age of technology and smart phones, we can now order anything with an app and for convenience, you can add the tip in before anything has even happened. That tip isn’t gratuity. It isn’t based on any merit. What about the people who go above and beyond; don’t they deserve a little something extra??
What about the people who show up late and have a foul demeanor?? Do they not deserve less??

Now, I know that there are many people who base none of it on any merit at all… They simply give everyone 10, 15, or 20% …no matter what. On the surface, this may seem generous, but to me as someone who has worked for tips and having known many people who worked for them, it seems unjust that someone can do crappy work and get the same tip as the person who will go after everything with all they’ve got and be joyful about it the entire time.

What has truly brought this to my attention is the other day, I ordered Domino’s Pizza on my smartphone for me and the boys and when I went to submit my order, it popped up a message box that read, “Giving gratuity now will ensure our staff does the best possible job”
What the hell is that??? I have to tip you to get you to do your job? If I don’t tip you, I may not get my order promptly or correctly??

Our society has become a bunch of people who are owed things they haven’t earned. It is ridiculous and I’ve had enough. I’m just tired of all the nonsense and how people can’t just work hard for what they get. We are building a society of privileged, entitled individuals who expect everything and want to work for little. And then continue to criticize everyone else who has more than them…but that’s another complaint for another day.

In closing. be kind to the people who bring your food or anything else these days but also tip them appropriately… Let’s encourage more people to actually earn it instead of continuing to hand them things they haven’t earned.

Where are we…?? What is truly going on? IT has been so difficult to actually out into words all of the things flowing through my mind… I feel almost overwhelmed with thoughts, contemplations and everything swirling in my mind.

Grant Cardone always says if you are not overwhelmed, you are not truly applying yourself….

I am going to choose to believe that once I am able to unpack all of this that something trly amazing will be coming out… Let’s get it off an poppin’ though…

There is so much ugliness in the world right now and in our society and the truth is that all of this has always been here…. Oh yes, none of this is new. Some people are super excited that some of these things are finally coming to the surface. The sad things is that too many are fighting it… Not only are people fighting the information coming out… Others are using the light that is finally being shined to fuel a fire that has been burning for some time… While others are taking to social media…

Yes, your boy is over here on social media bashing social media…. and the reality is that social media isn’t the problem… it is the people. Social media used to be such a privilege… Now, our spoiled Americans believe it to be their right.

Mark Zuckerberg, Kevin Systrom, Jack Dorsey, Elon Musk, Jeff Bezos….These guys don’t owe you anything…

People believe that because they have Free Speech protected by the Constitution that they should be able to say what they want where they want…. That isn’t rights… That is privilege…

There are magazines, blogs, newsletters that all have “letters to the editor” sections but it is still their publication and they reserve the right to publish or not publish anything they wish. Now, Instagram and Twitter are a little more aloof when it comes to their policies because the platforms are much more simplistic, Facebook actually has great lawyers and incredibly detailed policies which you click a button stating you have read and acknowledge when you set up your account… I know that most people never read these things… but it is there. In those policies, it is clearly stated that anything you post on their platform… Yep, I said that correctly… Their platform, you give them total rights to. This si the reason I have never chosen to post pictures of my little boys on Facebook. They own your pictures… Of course you still own them as well, but you have given them 100% freedom to do as they wish. I bet most of you didn’t realize this. Yep, every time you post a picture to Facebook, they can use to build ads and owe you no money because you signed over the rights when you clicked yes to set up the account. They can also choose to remove or delete anything they wish including your posts they dislike or posts that are disturbing other users or your account all together… This is not censorship… This is ownership!

Yes, of course it is a form of censorship but I choose to censor certain things in my house as I have children. I also choose to not have certain things in my house because it is my house…Period.

That is my right. You have no rights over my house or my business… Just because I invite you over and allow you to be pretty leisurely and help yourself to any amenities… I also reserve the right to revoke that at any point… Same thing applies to my office and place of business.

Facebook is Zuckerberg’s house…his business…his office… HE owns it… You have only the privilages, he allows you and he can revoke at anytime.
Many people also don’t know how he built many games and programs that all flopped before he built Facebook… You don’t like his, build your own…

Same with Twitter, IG, What’sapp, or anything else out there.

Trump became angry and decided after he lost the White House and was booted from Facebook for being a bad influence on the American people to build his own social media platform… Good for him!!
That’s America… That is Freedom!! He built his own! You don’t like what’s going on, build your own.
Stop being a baby and grow up already! You are embarrassing yourself… the privilege and level of entitlement in this great nation has become so sad…

Now, I veered off from where I wanted to be, so much more to unpack… Stay tuned!!

Let’s give some back story for just a moment to paint a picture of my particular circumstance….
My Corey…my sweet little 6 year old boy who by the way has only been sick twice prior to COVID… We have been so blessed with a little boy who has an immune system like no other… He is just so strong. Colton, his brother has been sick a few times, not many but a few….He is pretty string as well, but Corey in 6 years has been sick twice. Then COVID spreads across the globe and we have done everything in our power to protect ourselves and keep ourselves safe due to our little boys and Kimberly’s job as a nurse with patients who have compromised immune systems. We just want to be sure that we are being wise and cautious.

Even having done all these things to be cautious, we still get COVID….all of us…all four of us get it. I got it pretty bad…lasted 8 and a half weeks, developed COVID-induced viral pneumonia and swelled up as if I was 9 months pregnant. It was not pretty. I went to the ER twice and then had an emergency appointment with a doctor after I had swelled up…I still have some symptoms a year later. Anyways, back to Corey…

I sat with my boy while I was sick and miserable for 3 days. He couldn’t sleep, he was shaking uncontrollably, anytime he would dose off, he would wake up pacing in circles and not know where he was or where he was going. I have never seen my little guy like this and never want to experience it again. It was horrible. He bounced back pretty quick…but those 3 days were terrible.

I have friends and even family members who can’t seem to understand what I experienced with my family during this time. They continue telling me that because I am still being cautious that I am choosing to live in fear and no trusting God. Those who truly know me and some of you may be my readers and I love that some of you know me so well already… It’s awesome to know you pay attention. Those who know me know better than all of that. I haven’t lost my faith in God. Scripture tells us to be wise and not tempt God.

I am being cautious because of what I experienced. What I went through with my little boy. I don’t want to experience that again. I don’t judge others for their stances; I merely have a problem with others judging me based on mine. I am a sheep and gullible and obviously scared and an idiot because I want to be cautious with my little boys whom I had an extremely traumatic experience with.

Now, get this, these same people who are condemning me for being cautious for having my boys mask up and limiting their exposure to unvaccinated, unmasked people until I feel that the virus in under control in our community and society, those same people are telling me that I am clueless and unaware of what is happening in our nation. They claim I need to be stocking up on guns and food because our nation is in a war right now. At some point our government may come in an seize our home and if we don’t have food rations to go off the grid and we don’t have ample guns to protect ourselves we are doomed. Oh my gosh, I literally just laughed out loud while I was typing that sentence.

Please do not get me wrong, I am not against food conservation or guns. To stock-pile non-perishable food is fine and maybe even wise. Doesn’t sound like their could be a down side to that at all. Regarding guns, I am not at all anti-gun; I am however anti-crazy-person-with-a-gun… Anyone who can not wait to get their hands on one, is the last person I want to have one…just sayin’ but that’s a topic for another day. Guns are great! I am not anti-gun at all.

The point here is that the people that are close to me that should know who I am, have really no clue at all because they are too consumed with themselves. But these people claim that I am living in fear because I have actually experienced something traumatic and am taking action to prevent the same thing from happening again. But they are working so hard to prevent something they have never experienced and have little evidence of it’s possibility. That does not mean that their fears are not valid. Who can say what fear is valid and what isn’t. If people have fears, they should be able to handle them. It is when they impede upon their lives or other’s lives, that maybe they need to address them and seek potential counseling.
The idea of their fears about our government taking over is silly to me but I would never stifle their choices to protect themselves and their family as they see fit. But my concerns about facing something that I have already faced and wish not to face again, they see as dumb, misguided, and lacking in merit. Therefor I should get over myself and stop living in fear…

I need to stop living in fear while they handle their snakes to show their faith in the Lord and build bunkers filled with guns and food to prevent the next war that they claim will break out in within the next 3 years…. Let’s readdress this conversation in 3 years when it never happens. Talk to you then…

It’s your boy here… The reality is that I had a draft that I was supposed to post a few weeks ago and still have yet to post it… It’s challenging at times because so many things get into my head. I’ve always got so much going on and trying to get it all out…much easier said than done, but I think that is what I’m going to start doing is just getting more out. I’ve got to stop overthinking it and just get the content out there and let fall where it may…

Right now, I have these things that have been burdening my mind because I feel we are losing focus as a people….as a nation…as a community… I am not a Bible thumping person because I feel it does no good…. I am a strong Christian and anyone who has known me for a good amount of time knows this to be true. I may be flawed and broken but I never claim to be perfect… I am not here to preach but to shine some light…

We need to be living with a Kingdom Mindset and few truly are… an maybe the word few is too harsh or slightly exaggerated but I feel the point is made and merits an observation.

In the grand scope of how many of us are walking the Earth, there are far too many who do not even know Jesus, of those who do know Jesus, many choose to deny Him, of those who choose to accept Him, there are so many who many know of Him but not of the Word of God… They are lost without His teachings… Of the ones who know, far too few actually practice, and of the ones whom believe they practice, many are too caught up in checking the boxes of things they did to serve God that they have forgotten about true relationship and about the basic principle of having love and compassion for their fellow man.

I have had just about enough over the last few years… I have friends, family, people whom I’ve known for so long and felt as though I knew so well, that will claim to be loud and proud Christians because that is what they were brought up to do.
They will stand so high and mighty upon their principles because they know the “right” thing to do and what is “fundamentally correct and right and good.” When you have lost the way of the Lord, these words are in quotes because they are just words at that point… that have lost meaning and merit. They no longer carry the weight they were intended to carry.

When you pass judgement upon so many others around you for their sins…. oh how you have forgotten when Jesus spoke, “ye without sin, cast the first stone,” and they dropped their stones and walked away from the sinner they were ready to stone for her actions. Because Jesus is not physically present right in front of you for you to see him, you forget the words he spoke and chose to cast stones regularly…in these modern times of social media, stones are virtually thrown by the millisecond. It’s absurd and an abomination.

Let me ask the question that sadly no one who doesn’t already agree with me will have an answer for…What does this behavior do for the Kingdom??

When you see people sinning and doing wrong, passing judgement only pushes them further from the Lord… but let’s not talk about that. I have literally had people tell me, “Corey, you are too soft and too passive when it comes to things that are wrong.”

I did a Freedom Bible Study last summer and had an excellent discussion about how I held Christians to a higher standard for their mistakes… I feel that at the end of the day, we are all people and we are al going to make mistakes but when I non-believer makes a mistake, they may not even realize it’s a mistake or may not understand it’s importance…still valid, still a sin, and still needs correcting ….but when a Christian passes judgement and makes the mistakes that we all tend to make, the non-believer who was sitting on the fence just jumped back to the other side because they have taken that to be identifying characteristics of what and who Christians are…. fair…nope…not really, but life isn’t fair… Let’s grow up already and accept the responsibility we have as Christians and start leading by example by living with a Kingdom Mindset…

Ya feel me?

Let’s do this… we’re not in this alone…God put us here together to walk together. Let’s help each other out. Let’s take a chance to remind our fellow Christians who are falling short to get back on track opposed to constantly condemning those who don’t know…if we can help get each other on track, we can begin to help more people around us know Jesus and develop relationships with Him. Let’s work together!!

God is GOOD…. All the Time (You know what you supposed to say… )

It is time to start thinking differently…

You have already heard it before…probably many times… Defined insanity is continuing to do the same thing and expecting a different result… Oddly enough, this is similar to experimental design but that is a discussion for another day…

No matter what it is you are trying to do in your life, you’ve got to start thinking different. Do not change who you are, change how you think about the process.

Sometimes it helps to get a new environment, atmosphere, just an overall vibe to how you are letting your mind wander… Then begin to think differently and marinate on what is next. Really allow your thoughts to permeate in your mind and be sure you know what it is you are reaching for and what is driving you in this direction. Know your purpose.

Let me ask a simple question that sadly too few of you will have an answer to… “What is it you want?”

Now take this for what it is… Your boy over here is a business coach/consultant and a life coach… What is it you are lacking right now?

No matter how good things are, there is more for you.. Let’s get it poppin’

Marinate tonight and truly give the necessary amount of time to truly think about what it is you want and I’ll hit you back in the am… and we’ll go to work… Let’s get it done.