Posts Tagged ‘Personal Growth’

“Your friends will stretch your vision or choke your dream.” -Colin Powell

That’s real talk right there… I meant to get this posted the other day but it just didn’t happen… My apologies to those who were anticipating it and thanks to all who have stayed tuned in…

Let’s get down to it…

Who is you surround yourself with is so much more important than people tend to understand. I have literally posted things before about people minding their circle, and these were not always received well. People made comments about me being superficial or only carrying about money or not having my priorities right… This is all laughable to me.
The kicker was those who were so quick to defend their station in life stating things like “material possessions aren’t important to me” or “I’m happy with my friends and don’t need more out of life as I have all I want”

Those are cute “Hallmark” answers but they’re all meaningless. If they were true, they wouldn’t need to be said. There are many things in life that must be explained but lots of things shouldn’t have to be and when they are, they tend be explained just as a sense of overcompensation for a need of validity. Or just because the particular individual needs to reassure (or lie to) themselves. It is sad to see such a lack of self awareness but it is a common situation.

It is human nature to to correct the cognitive dissonance one has in their own mind by continuing to try to convince themselves that what they have is what they want….obviously.

So, we’ll move on from that for now… I can divulge more on that in a later blog.

Tonight, I want to give some tips on your circle. Of course there are people in our lives that have just happened to be there out of convenience…. a college friend, an old co-worker, a random acquaintance… People that otherwise you may have little even in common with, but they tend to stay there just because they have been there for so long. This is not a bad thing… It is a part of life. The problem is when this becomes the norm. When all of your primary circle are merely people who have positioned themselves there only by accident and with no intention of growth.

This is where things may begin to touch a nerve with some of you…if it does, GOOD. You are obviously the one I am speaking to.

Your circle should begin to become smaller as you grow older and wiser…but not just smaller, but should begin to be a circle with intent. You should be positioning yourself in a spot with those around you who want to lift you up and propel you forward, not those who wish to stifle you because you are different. Those in my main circle may not all think like me or have similar goals in their lives but what they do have is an unending level of support for me and where I am going. Some of them are going to give all they can to help me get where I’m going. Some are going to join me on my journey. The others may not be on a similar path as me, but they have my back, one hundred, and will always support me. That is the way it should be, and you could ask any one of them, they all know with out question, that I will ride with them to the end and beyond.

I bring something to the table with them and they all know that we in it together. I am a firm believer that God did not out us here to walk this world alone… He had intention and that intention involved community. But who is in that community is where I get a little more particular about the situation. You have to be mindful about who you surround yourself with.

So to end back at the quote from the beginning, those who are intended for your circle are those who will help push you towards more than you ever thought you would be going after while others… will smother and crush your spirit and motivation towards all the greatness that you are heading towards. Some will do it because they can’t understand what you are going after and others are bitter about their own situation…

No matter the reason or even if it is subconscious, they aren’t the problem because they aren’t in control. You are, and you choose to allow them to push you forward or break you down.

So, I see all these people on IG posting these ‘day’ photos in which they continue to count their days…”Day 5 of the new year”…”Day 8 of the new year”…. “Day 9, 2020″…. Some of them, I observe them also posting their progress with their resolution or something like that… progress of their fitness/health plan, or progress in their business…

Unfortunately, some of them aren’t really doing anything like that at all…they are simply counting days. Your IG account is your account and you can post whatever you want, but if you want people to care, post content that matters. Progress matters… it inspires, it motivates, it is your own personal accountability… something…

Anything is better than nothing, and just a count of the day, is the equivalent of nothing.

I’m just keepin’ it real. Some of you, and you know who you are, needed to hear this.

Today is an important day…

This is, without question, the most difficult post I have done thus far… A year ago, today, my life was changed and will never be the same…  I lost my Mom. I can’t begin to express what she meant to me. She truly was one of the most amazing people I have ever known in all my life.

She was the one who taught me to be the man I am today. She taught me to be ambitious. She taught me to be strong. She taught me that fear was okay, but not to be scared or controlled by fear. You must be strong and decisive.

I remember growing up hearing the stories of her and Dad’s business ventures. I always knew that I would own my own business one day. Over the years the type of business changed so many times…but ultimately, I was going to be like my Dad… my Dad wasn’t around when I was growing up. He was when I was little, but then him and Mom divorced, and we lost touch for much of my life… When I was a teenager, I looked to him like a hero… it wasn’t till later that I grew and realized that I was seeing him through my Mom’s eyes. He wasn’t my hero; he was an amazing man. He was a wonderful man. He was my Dad. He will always be my Dad, and I love him dearly… I hold the moments and memories that we shared so close in my heart. But the truth is, as amazing as he was and still is, my hero, he is not. My hero is my Mom. She has been for nearly all my life, even when I was too clueless to realize it.

My Mom taught me about being an entrepreneur, and she also taught me about the importance of writing and expressing myself artistically. She told me stories my whole life that caused me to look up to my Dad and want to be like him…

All along, I wanted to be like her. I wanted to be the type of man that she would see as worthy and good enough. I wanted to make her proud. I wanted my Dad to one day come back in my life and see the man I had become. I wanted her to know that as incredible as she thought he was, I could be great too. I could do the amazing things they did.

My drive and ambition have always been there… It was always something that was in me. Many things over the years have clouded my judgement as life tends to do, but that drive has always been there, and it was because of her. It was because of what she taught me and how she taught me to be.

I couldn’t be more grateful for the stories she shared about Dad and the picture she painted of him being a Texas Hero and an entrepreneur with ambition to spare…. But ultimately, when telling these stories, she never expressed that they started these businesses because of success, fame, or fortune… she always said they were just having fun. That was something I never forgot. They had fun. They loved working with one another and in so many different arenas also. At one point, my Mom… 5’2” 120 lbs… and my Dad owned a company laying brick… She was always so proud to tell me… “Me and your Dad used to lay brick.” I was so proud every time I heard it.

Mom, I’m doing it! I am running my own successful business and I am reaching others and helping them start and run their business. I am also reaching more people through my writing which you always encouraged. I wish you were here to see what I have accomplished. You were always so proud of me and loved when I started my first business years ago and always encouraged and helped as much as you could along the way… I am now helping others as you always helped me. I love you, Mom. I am so proud to share your stories and the things you have taught… Me and Jason shared stories with each other today about growing up… we talked of some of our friends and the experiences we had. I remember friends like David and Andre called you ‘Mom’. If only more people could have been so lucky and so blessed to have a mom like you. I am thankful everyday… I am learning that you never stopped teaching me… even to this day… just by talking to Jason, I realized things that I was still learning from you. I miss you more than you know and will continue to honor you, Kimberly, our kiddos, and the Bayless Family traditions as I grow and continue to develop my business. I don’t think I ever properly thanked you either… but I don’t think we can ever thank the people who touch our lives and effect so strongly.

Today, I ask of all of you, please take a moment to show a little love and appreciation to those who support you in your efforts and business… those who are always there for you. Whether it be your Mom, Dad, brother, wife, husband, or true friend…  whoever is in your life who is there for you in that special way and continues to encourage you and help you grow to be a better person, give them your love and appreciation… You wouldn’t be you without them.

This is a simple enough concept but sometimes needs to be reiterated as we sometimes forget just how important it is… You are launching your own business! You are getting it going! You are the one investing time, money, and efforts into the growth! You! You! YOU!

I can’t even begin to emphasize this enough… You are the one you can count on and You are the one who needs to be ready to hurdle any obstacle in your way. This isn’t a roll of the dice… You are not hoping things will work out. You need to be confident and decisive. You need to be decisive in your choices and know the direction you are taking… You need to know what is next and where you’re going. You need confidence in not just the choices you are making but in the ability to initiate said decision. Many people come up with great ideas but when it comes to initiation of said ideas, they can sometimes fizzle out. You need no fizzle… you need more sizzle my nizzle… fo’ rizzle. Ya feel me?!

To simple words have been sang loud and proud by me and my homeboy for years now and I think they sum it all up nicely…. Get Cocky

You have got to believe in what you are doing and make it happen already. No one is going to make it happen for you nor should they. We aren’t talking about gambling…. No dice rolling… no lottery here… you want wealth and success; get it going and make it happen already! You have the potential and the ability… There is no reason to let anything stand in your way. The time is now… Your time is now! …I said it and I’ll say it again… Get Cocky.